Places

I've been thinking about how I haven't been to New York in quite awhile. During the early 2000s, I made several trips as Sarah was living in Connecticut and then later in Brooklyn. Most of the times I went, I was visiting her (except for once in 2002 when I stayed at the Midtown Crowne Plaza with my mom and step dad after 4 months in Chile and that Midtown Crowne Plaza was about the best shower I've ever had in my entire life).

BUT.

The point is that my memories of New York are inextricably tied to Sarah. When I think of New York, I think of the times there with her. This is weird only because I am sure she doesn't associate New York with me at all. I mean, she shouldn't. I never lived there- she had a life there with many people and while I am sure (ahem) that she had fun during my visits, I doubt very much that I am the first person to come to mind when she reflects on time in New York.

I wonder if there are other examples. For me, when I think of the Dominican Republic, I certainly immediately am reminded of the first several years I knew Eduardo. My memories of that place are wrapped up with him, but for him, I am only a small part of his memories there.

I don't know that any of this really means anything, but it's just strange to think about unilateral associations. I just made that term up now. Unilateral associations. Let's see if it catches on. And if I can think of other examples.